So here we are , another year over. I am having mixed feeling really. I am truly over this year. It honestly was one of the crappiest years. I lost my Mom, My daughter's health got worse and so did mine, my mental health has been shaken, and I got terminated from my job.
See why I am very unimpressed with this year? The hard part is it means the last year my Princess is a child. My little girl will turn 18 and then start her Senior year of high school. That makes me sad and also ramps up my anxiety because that means new problems and I am totally unprepared to be the Mom of an adult who I still have to make all the decisions for because her health prevents her from being capable of doing it. She is smart, and works hard. She aspires to become a school teacher. The problem is her seizures make life hard. The truth is my adult child will still have days where she will be more like a 5 year old than an 18 year old.
Totally not her fault and I accept that as her Mom this is absolutely my responsibility. I have just spent 17.5 years making the decisions because she is a child. What happens when I try to help and she says no because she really doesn't know what is happening right then or if I am unable to become her guardian so they will only talk to her and she gets too frustrated to make the right decisions? Being a person with severe anxiety dealing with this has been an extremely difficult task. I am soooo not ready.
As with the years past it does not matter how prepared or unprepared we are it will come. It will bring with it whatever it wants and life will continue. I think of the worst and pray for the best. There will be no stopping it and all we can do is try to make each day count the best we can.
So as you close out these final days, just enjoy them because life is going to happen. It will be messy sometimes and other times it will be great. So my wish for all of you is that, May you have more great days than messy ones.
Thank you for visiting, until next time.
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Saturday, December 30, 2017
Saturday, December 2, 2017
Quality-V-Quantity During the Holidays.
Hey there!!! With Christmas just round the corner I wanted to share something. Do not forget what the holidays are all about. Sue it is nice to get a gift from people, but the important part is the time spent.
Especially with kids. Most of the time people can not remember what they got for Christmas when they were little but what they do remember is the people. They remember that they always spent time with their loved ones. That family was there.
Don't have a big family or really any family? Again it is about quality. Spend time with your favorite people. Make the time count with the people that matter the most to you. That is the big picture here. For me and my daughter it is time with my parents. Unfortunately since my Mom passed this year it is a little harder but that means the time with my Dad is even that much more special.
No matter who is there or what you do I sincerely hope you have a blessed and happy Holiday season.
Thanks for visiting talk to you soon.
Especially with kids. Most of the time people can not remember what they got for Christmas when they were little but what they do remember is the people. They remember that they always spent time with their loved ones. That family was there.
Don't have a big family or really any family? Again it is about quality. Spend time with your favorite people. Make the time count with the people that matter the most to you. That is the big picture here. For me and my daughter it is time with my parents. Unfortunately since my Mom passed this year it is a little harder but that means the time with my Dad is even that much more special.
No matter who is there or what you do I sincerely hope you have a blessed and happy Holiday season.
Thanks for visiting talk to you soon.
Saturday, October 14, 2017
How the Year began
So in previous posts I said I would explain a lot of other things, so here is the start of that. This post will be hard so I will tell you how this year started and then I will highlight other events in another post so I can get through this one without losing it completely.
This year started out with my Dad letting me know my Mom had not been feeling well so she decided to go to the hospital. That was nothing new as my Mom had been in the hospital many times before because she had pneumonia a lot and some times it got bad and she had COPD so she needed help sometime. I asked him did I need to come and was assured that it was just a normal trip and things would be ok. This went on for a few weeks and my Dad got the same answer from Dr.s and relayed it to me saying there was nothing serious happening the infections was just pretty bad and she had developed a UTI so it would just be a little longer .
At this point you are probably thinking why would I not have gone and visited my mom in the hospital after he being there for a few weeks. Well as you may remember my daughter has seizures. Things have been out of control and the hospital was over an hour drive and I also had to work to support me and my daughter. I felt bad but my Dad reassured me that my Mom was ok and a couple times I even chatted with her on the phone so that made me feel a little more comfortable in the situation.
One day I get a call from my Dad and he is crying so I panic. Finally he tells me he got a call and we have to make a decision. I am freaking out because who wants to do that. So I go get my cousin from work down the road I smoke a million cigarettes (I know not the best idea) while we get my aunt and daughter. My cousin goes back to work while me, my daughter , and aunt drive two hours to my Dad who is at his house in shock. More family comes as we talk about what to do. We decide that me and my Dad and daughter will go in the morning to talk to the Dr and get more information.
That was a complete disaster. We get told different stories and that we should not have received that call. Things were not good but they didn't think we were to that point yet. My Mom was responding to us being there and even gave my Dad a kiss. We were Pissed to say the least that they put us through that. Family from out of state was on their way because we thought my Mom was about to die. We visited with her and everyone and after a few days were assured that they were not convinced she was going to die soon. We all go home and for two weeks my Dad tells us how things are getting better she is still responding to him and the Dr's are hopeful. Things feel good.
Then it is February and my Mom's birthday is here and we are excited because she made it another year and things seemed good. My Dad went to visit her and spent most of the day with her and said she was tired but doing good for her situation. It was getting late so he told her that he was going back to the hotel room and would be back in the morning. I had talked to him and her and we planned for us to come visit later because we wanted him to have the weekend with her. It was about 11:00 pm on February 16, 2017 and I had just crawled into bed. My phone lit up and it was my Dad, as I answered I grabbed my daughter and started getting out of bed and putting my shoes on. What happened next has shattered our whole world.
They had called my Dad and said she didn't have much time. Before I even hung up we were almost in the car and time was not real. I had to get gas and bought more smoke (again I know, bad idea). My daughter got a hold of people as I drove for what seemed like forever and got pulled over twice for a broken taillight. We arrived and the strongest woman I know, the woman who taught me to be strong and be a mom was so weak. She barely responded but tried to hang on. We prayed, we brought in a priest for final rights, we told her to hold on, we cried.
On February 17, 2017 at 2:30 AM we had to make the hardest decision we have ever made. After 69 years on Earth, 38 years of marriage, 38 years of being my Mom, I was the reason they got married :),being my daughters Grandma for 16 years, we had to say goodbye. It was the worst day of my life. Her body had shut down, while her brain was working. It was so unreal. This year has been so hard. My Mom was the person I would call when I needed advice. She would tell me straight, she would never tell me what I wanted to hear, but rather what I needed to hear, good or bad. It was the end of the world that we knew and the next week following her death was beyond stressful.
This has been long but I promised. So that is how my year started and it is still not getting much better but that is for another post. I need to get myself back together. Thank you for reading. Unitl next time.
This year started out with my Dad letting me know my Mom had not been feeling well so she decided to go to the hospital. That was nothing new as my Mom had been in the hospital many times before because she had pneumonia a lot and some times it got bad and she had COPD so she needed help sometime. I asked him did I need to come and was assured that it was just a normal trip and things would be ok. This went on for a few weeks and my Dad got the same answer from Dr.s and relayed it to me saying there was nothing serious happening the infections was just pretty bad and she had developed a UTI so it would just be a little longer .At this point you are probably thinking why would I not have gone and visited my mom in the hospital after he being there for a few weeks. Well as you may remember my daughter has seizures. Things have been out of control and the hospital was over an hour drive and I also had to work to support me and my daughter. I felt bad but my Dad reassured me that my Mom was ok and a couple times I even chatted with her on the phone so that made me feel a little more comfortable in the situation.
One day I get a call from my Dad and he is crying so I panic. Finally he tells me he got a call and we have to make a decision. I am freaking out because who wants to do that. So I go get my cousin from work down the road I smoke a million cigarettes (I know not the best idea) while we get my aunt and daughter. My cousin goes back to work while me, my daughter , and aunt drive two hours to my Dad who is at his house in shock. More family comes as we talk about what to do. We decide that me and my Dad and daughter will go in the morning to talk to the Dr and get more information.
That was a complete disaster. We get told different stories and that we should not have received that call. Things were not good but they didn't think we were to that point yet. My Mom was responding to us being there and even gave my Dad a kiss. We were Pissed to say the least that they put us through that. Family from out of state was on their way because we thought my Mom was about to die. We visited with her and everyone and after a few days were assured that they were not convinced she was going to die soon. We all go home and for two weeks my Dad tells us how things are getting better she is still responding to him and the Dr's are hopeful. Things feel good.
Then it is February and my Mom's birthday is here and we are excited because she made it another year and things seemed good. My Dad went to visit her and spent most of the day with her and said she was tired but doing good for her situation. It was getting late so he told her that he was going back to the hotel room and would be back in the morning. I had talked to him and her and we planned for us to come visit later because we wanted him to have the weekend with her. It was about 11:00 pm on February 16, 2017 and I had just crawled into bed. My phone lit up and it was my Dad, as I answered I grabbed my daughter and started getting out of bed and putting my shoes on. What happened next has shattered our whole world.
They had called my Dad and said she didn't have much time. Before I even hung up we were almost in the car and time was not real. I had to get gas and bought more smoke (again I know, bad idea). My daughter got a hold of people as I drove for what seemed like forever and got pulled over twice for a broken taillight. We arrived and the strongest woman I know, the woman who taught me to be strong and be a mom was so weak. She barely responded but tried to hang on. We prayed, we brought in a priest for final rights, we told her to hold on, we cried.
On February 17, 2017 at 2:30 AM we had to make the hardest decision we have ever made. After 69 years on Earth, 38 years of marriage, 38 years of being my Mom, I was the reason they got married :),being my daughters Grandma for 16 years, we had to say goodbye. It was the worst day of my life. Her body had shut down, while her brain was working. It was so unreal. This year has been so hard. My Mom was the person I would call when I needed advice. She would tell me straight, she would never tell me what I wanted to hear, but rather what I needed to hear, good or bad. It was the end of the world that we knew and the next week following her death was beyond stressful.
This has been long but I promised. So that is how my year started and it is still not getting much better but that is for another post. I need to get myself back together. Thank you for reading. Unitl next time.
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Saturday, August 12, 2017
I'm BACK!!!!!!!!
Hey guys!! I know it has been a long time since I have written. SOOOO much has happened it is crazy. I may not post every day to start but I want to get back to doing my blog and reaching out to people. I have a new Facebook page and lots of thing to share bad and good. Stay tuned because I am ready for my come back and to start sharing my successes again. Talk soon.
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Friday, June 24, 2016
Hello
Hey out there. Sorry it has been awhile but so much has gone on lately. It is one thing after another around here. Just when I get one thing done something else seems to pop up. I know life can be crazy but it is just a hot mess right now.
I have my kidney stone but it is just sitting there and I have had two double ear infections and seriously need looked at and I no longer work. You may be thinking well go to the Dr. right? Well that is the next bomb, I was told I make to much money money to get medicaid any longer. Then I was told I would have to buy y own insurance.
Ok so what money am I supposed to use to do that? I mean it is not like you get extra money when you get unemployment. You get less so how is it that when I had a job I was eligible but now I have temporary income and I make to much? So I am now trying to find insurance which I have always gotten from my employer so I have no idea what I am doing.
In an attempt to get more money I decided to cash out part of my 401K and then put some in my in my IRA to build it up some. It seemed like a good idea. I could bump up my checking account and retirement at the same time. Well something happened and they sent the money to my employer instead but I no longer have an account with them so now I have no idea where my money is.
These are just a few of the things that have been going on. It has been interesting to say the least. Hopefully your days are going a little better than mine. :) Next time I hope it will be sooner and I will have something more exciting to talk about.
I have my kidney stone but it is just sitting there and I have had two double ear infections and seriously need looked at and I no longer work. You may be thinking well go to the Dr. right? Well that is the next bomb, I was told I make to much money money to get medicaid any longer. Then I was told I would have to buy y own insurance.
Ok so what money am I supposed to use to do that? I mean it is not like you get extra money when you get unemployment. You get less so how is it that when I had a job I was eligible but now I have temporary income and I make to much? So I am now trying to find insurance which I have always gotten from my employer so I have no idea what I am doing.
In an attempt to get more money I decided to cash out part of my 401K and then put some in my in my IRA to build it up some. It seemed like a good idea. I could bump up my checking account and retirement at the same time. Well something happened and they sent the money to my employer instead but I no longer have an account with them so now I have no idea where my money is.
These are just a few of the things that have been going on. It has been interesting to say the least. Hopefully your days are going a little better than mine. :) Next time I hope it will be sooner and I will have something more exciting to talk about.
Sunday, November 8, 2015
Holding On By a Thread
Lately it has been one mess after another it seems like. This has been an extremely challenging year. There was my daughter and all the sinecures she was having. Her health was beginning to decline and I was scared that she may not make it through the year. It was an extremely hard point in life.
Then there was the baby. It is still haunting me almost every day. I always think about it and how things would be different if I was still pregnant. I know things happen for a reason but it doesn't make the situation hurt any less. My uncle that past away in June would have had his birthday yesterday. We decided to have a small family dinner in his honor. My cousin had his new baby there and I couldn't even look at it or go int the same room. It was horrible.
People who I thought were my friends have basically cut me off and no longer really even acknowledge me because they feel I don't have time for them and such. I guess that isn't too bad considering they have not taken me and my daughter into consideration and feel like we should worry about them more even though my life has been a mess.
The topper is now I am on the verge of losing my job. I do not make enough really as it is and now I might lose the only income I really have. I already owe like everyone a ton of money so losing my job is not really feasible. I have no control over it though at this point which makes it tough. They will either keep me or they won't.
So This year has not been one of my favorites. It has been one of the most trying, yet here I am still. I have no idea why I am here or what my purpose is but I am here. I will still take each day as it comes but what my reason is right now I do not know
Then there was the baby. It is still haunting me almost every day. I always think about it and how things would be different if I was still pregnant. I know things happen for a reason but it doesn't make the situation hurt any less. My uncle that past away in June would have had his birthday yesterday. We decided to have a small family dinner in his honor. My cousin had his new baby there and I couldn't even look at it or go int the same room. It was horrible.
People who I thought were my friends have basically cut me off and no longer really even acknowledge me because they feel I don't have time for them and such. I guess that isn't too bad considering they have not taken me and my daughter into consideration and feel like we should worry about them more even though my life has been a mess.
The topper is now I am on the verge of losing my job. I do not make enough really as it is and now I might lose the only income I really have. I already owe like everyone a ton of money so losing my job is not really feasible. I have no control over it though at this point which makes it tough. They will either keep me or they won't.
So This year has not been one of my favorites. It has been one of the most trying, yet here I am still. I have no idea why I am here or what my purpose is but I am here. I will still take each day as it comes but what my reason is right now I do not know
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Sunday, November 1, 2015
Getting on With Your Life After Loss
So it has been more than a month since my loss. I have good days and bad days. Some things are a little more emotional than others. My cousin had a baby the other day and day and my friend is about to have one any day now. Don't get me wrong I am very happy for both of them. I wish them nothing but the best. It doesn't make it any less hurtful in my situation.
There are thing every where that are reminders. Even reading the ads is hard when they are having the baby sales. Seeing everyone out with there babies and knowing that won't happen for me is hard. Sometimes I think about what it would have been like had I still been pregnant. I know how much time was left and I think about how big I would be and what I would be feeling right now.
It is hard. I remind myself of all the reasons that it is ok, like all the pain I was in and the fact that I have a child who already needs so much of my time. Of course my age was a big thing. The big one is God needed another angel for something. Those things sometimes help me remember to not be so lost. Then all it takes is one little thing like some one selling a car seat on line or a coupon for bottles and suddenly I am back to the fact that I don't need those because I am not pregnant.
It has only been a little over a month so it is still fresh. In time I know I will be better. I can't say it will ever go away but it will get better. I will be able to see other people have new babies and not feel loss but rather joy and happiness. One day the pain will be so much less but until then I will have to do my best to move forward.
There are thing every where that are reminders. Even reading the ads is hard when they are having the baby sales. Seeing everyone out with there babies and knowing that won't happen for me is hard. Sometimes I think about what it would have been like had I still been pregnant. I know how much time was left and I think about how big I would be and what I would be feeling right now.
It is hard. I remind myself of all the reasons that it is ok, like all the pain I was in and the fact that I have a child who already needs so much of my time. Of course my age was a big thing. The big one is God needed another angel for something. Those things sometimes help me remember to not be so lost. Then all it takes is one little thing like some one selling a car seat on line or a coupon for bottles and suddenly I am back to the fact that I don't need those because I am not pregnant.
It has only been a little over a month so it is still fresh. In time I know I will be better. I can't say it will ever go away but it will get better. I will be able to see other people have new babies and not feel loss but rather joy and happiness. One day the pain will be so much less but until then I will have to do my best to move forward.
Thursday, October 15, 2015
Down With The Pounds
So I am down 5 more pounds. I am working on eating out less to start. I got a little side tracked and was eating out a little too much. I have continued to have my smoothies with the protein powder. I really like buying the frozen fruit at #Target. It is very tasty and makes things very simple. I have the #Nutribullet and I just put in the fruit and powder and blend it in the to go cup and drink it at work.
I have not started back to the gym yet. I really need to go but I have napping way to much again. That is a big down fall of mine. Over the years I have been napping so much it is crazy. I take my daughter to school then come sleep until the last minute before work. Sooo not healthy. Today I decided to stay awake. Napping is a hard habit to break when you have been doing it for like 9 years now.
So what is your favorite way to spend your extra morning time? What do you get done before leaving to work? I will have an extra hour after I go to the gym when I start o I want some ideas of things I can accomplish with my extra time before I have to get ready to go.
I have not started back to the gym yet. I really need to go but I have napping way to much again. That is a big down fall of mine. Over the years I have been napping so much it is crazy. I take my daughter to school then come sleep until the last minute before work. Sooo not healthy. Today I decided to stay awake. Napping is a hard habit to break when you have been doing it for like 9 years now.
So what is your favorite way to spend your extra morning time? What do you get done before leaving to work? I will have an extra hour after I go to the gym when I start o I want some ideas of things I can accomplish with my extra time before I have to get ready to go.
Monday, September 28, 2015
New Decisions
So after a long weekend and a lot of emotions I am trying to make a change. I have decided I need to make some serious changes to my life. I have had so many emotional things happen and I have been let down by so many. I realized this weekend that I have given so much of myself to make others happy without worrying about the consequences it would have on me. I have put them above my own mental and physical health. It is time to stop this cycle.
It is ok to help people and consider how your actions will affect others, but at the end of the day you have to make sure you and your family are taken care of. If you let yourself bottle everything up then eventually you will finally break. This is what happened to me over the weekend. I realized how many people have used me for their benefit and then when I was no longer needed they dropped me. I was to trusting that they cared as much as I did but I was wrong.
The problem is my heart is too open. I am not saying be closed off completely but you really have to know the people you let in your circle. Make sure the people you invest your time in are investing their time back into you. Even a little bit. They may never be able to give as much as you for whatever reason, but make sure they are giving back and not just taking. If you are the only one giving in a relationship then it might be time to re-evaluate things between you.
I want everyone to live an emotionally healthy life. Please just keep an eye on who you are letting in your life. Make sure they are making you as happy as you make them. Life is give and take. Please take the time to love and live to the fullest.
It is ok to help people and consider how your actions will affect others, but at the end of the day you have to make sure you and your family are taken care of. If you let yourself bottle everything up then eventually you will finally break. This is what happened to me over the weekend. I realized how many people have used me for their benefit and then when I was no longer needed they dropped me. I was to trusting that they cared as much as I did but I was wrong.
The problem is my heart is too open. I am not saying be closed off completely but you really have to know the people you let in your circle. Make sure the people you invest your time in are investing their time back into you. Even a little bit. They may never be able to give as much as you for whatever reason, but make sure they are giving back and not just taking. If you are the only one giving in a relationship then it might be time to re-evaluate things between you.
I want everyone to live an emotionally healthy life. Please just keep an eye on who you are letting in your life. Make sure they are making you as happy as you make them. Life is give and take. Please take the time to love and live to the fullest.
Wednesday, September 23, 2015
Sad News
This will probably be a short post but wanted to share. I was trying to share being pregnant and be honest about my experience. Well the sad truth is it does not look good and I will probably not be able to continue.
I have not known for even a month so that lessons the blow a little but it is still hard to think about all the same. As I am single and older I will not have another opportunity for this experience again. It is hard to process that idea. I do however have a beautiful 15 year old daughter and I will continue to be the best mom to her that I know how and that will never change
I have not known for even a month so that lessons the blow a little but it is still hard to think about all the same. As I am single and older I will not have another opportunity for this experience again. It is hard to process that idea. I do however have a beautiful 15 year old daughter and I will continue to be the best mom to her that I know how and that will never change
Wednesday, April 22, 2015
A Few Updates
So today I am just going to talk about updates. A lot has happened over the last year and I talked about some of them. I am going to tell you today how things are going as we have made our way.
I have been divorced for a year now. It is still hard to accept because I trusted him with everything I had which included my child, and he let me down. The hardest part is he continues to let my daughter down but refuses to acknowledge she is hurting. I can not change that. I can only love her as much as I can and try to move forward. He has completely moved and seems to be doing great while I continue to struggle with many things. I pray and keep going and just do my best to help my daughter.
Weight loss is a constant struggle. I have lost 20 pounds but have a lot to go. We have had a rough year health wise so getting to the gym has been a distant thought completely. I have a lot more to go but I am trying to at least be more conscious about how much I eat. I don't really make a big deal about what I eat but how much and when. I am working on eating only when I am hungry and stopping when I am full. Not snacking just to eat.
My daughter still has seizures and other things going on. It has been a tough struggle this year for her health wise and it is really starting to get to her. he is trying to remain positive but I know she is hurting in so many ways. All I can do is be there for her and give her as much love as I can. I continue to pray for her each day.
Things have been tough but My God, me and my daughter are tougher. We will get through this. It may be next year or longer but we will make it and rest assured we will thrive at the end of the day.
I have been divorced for a year now. It is still hard to accept because I trusted him with everything I had which included my child, and he let me down. The hardest part is he continues to let my daughter down but refuses to acknowledge she is hurting. I can not change that. I can only love her as much as I can and try to move forward. He has completely moved and seems to be doing great while I continue to struggle with many things. I pray and keep going and just do my best to help my daughter.
Weight loss is a constant struggle. I have lost 20 pounds but have a lot to go. We have had a rough year health wise so getting to the gym has been a distant thought completely. I have a lot more to go but I am trying to at least be more conscious about how much I eat. I don't really make a big deal about what I eat but how much and when. I am working on eating only when I am hungry and stopping when I am full. Not snacking just to eat.
My daughter still has seizures and other things going on. It has been a tough struggle this year for her health wise and it is really starting to get to her. he is trying to remain positive but I know she is hurting in so many ways. All I can do is be there for her and give her as much love as I can. I continue to pray for her each day.
Things have been tough but My God, me and my daughter are tougher. We will get through this. It may be next year or longer but we will make it and rest assured we will thrive at the end of the day.
Thursday, October 16, 2014
Dealing With Loss
So we are going to switch gears for a minute. So on Tuesday I had to put my dog to sleep. It was very hard. I cried like a baby. My daughter was with me and cried too. It was a very emotional day and the things that bothered me the most were not the ones I thought would get to me.
We knew this was what was best for him. He was old and tired and he was having trouble just being here. I made the appointment for a week later so we would have just a bit longer to love him and spoil him. We got him some special items just for him and he slept with us every night until it was the day. We did everything we could to make sure that his final days were great. Then it was time
We sat with him for a bit then they gave him the shot. Then we sat some more. We cried and just loved on him for a little bit. Then we decided it was time to let them take him. Then our friends took us to dinner and we were doing okay. We knew in our hearts we had done the right thing. It was the next part that really hit hard and made us cry even harder.
We came home. He was not there to greet us. He wasn't laying on his pillow. My daughter out of habit sat down on her couch and draped her hand over the edge like usual which was when Freckles would waddle over and get some lovins. That is when it really got bad, he didn't waddle over. He was never going to waddle over for lovins again.
That is what is hard about losing some one. It isn't the letting go. You know that people are lost every day. It isn't the loss that hurts so much. It is remembering. It is a remembering all the wonderful things that used to be. You realize those thing are officially over. They are never going to happen again. Now every time you see those things happening or do those things it reminds you of the person or animal and it hurts that they are not there to do those things again.
We will always remember and we will always love you. Thank you for rescuing us. RIP Freckles "The Fat Man" Hooper
We knew this was what was best for him. He was old and tired and he was having trouble just being here. I made the appointment for a week later so we would have just a bit longer to love him and spoil him. We got him some special items just for him and he slept with us every night until it was the day. We did everything we could to make sure that his final days were great. Then it was time
We sat with him for a bit then they gave him the shot. Then we sat some more. We cried and just loved on him for a little bit. Then we decided it was time to let them take him. Then our friends took us to dinner and we were doing okay. We knew in our hearts we had done the right thing. It was the next part that really hit hard and made us cry even harder.
We came home. He was not there to greet us. He wasn't laying on his pillow. My daughter out of habit sat down on her couch and draped her hand over the edge like usual which was when Freckles would waddle over and get some lovins. That is when it really got bad, he didn't waddle over. He was never going to waddle over for lovins again.
That is what is hard about losing some one. It isn't the letting go. You know that people are lost every day. It isn't the loss that hurts so much. It is remembering. It is a remembering all the wonderful things that used to be. You realize those thing are officially over. They are never going to happen again. Now every time you see those things happening or do those things it reminds you of the person or animal and it hurts that they are not there to do those things again.
We will always remember and we will always love you. Thank you for rescuing us. RIP Freckles "The Fat Man" Hooper
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