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Lansing, Michigan, United States
I am a Mother, a mentor, a business owner, an employee. I am a person I have a busy life and would like to help others deal with their busy lives.

Saturday, March 14, 2015

When Kids Grow Up

As a parent we all want to treasure those moments when our children are little.  We love how they are constantly learning new things.  Everyday is a new adventure.  We get to have so much fun and get so much joy out of their experiences.  It is the joy of parenting.

The problem is they are growing up a little each day.  They know it is happening and are very eager to get to the next step.  As parents we just see our little baby playing and having fun.  Then BAM! suddenly it starts to set in to you they are growing up.  They are no longer a baby but they are learning to be more independent.

The hardest hit for me so far was realizing my daughter is a teen and she is really only 3 years away from being an adult.  It is hard to accept the fact that eventually she is going to be the one making all her choices and she will not have to listen to me about how to be careful or make sure you are doing this and that.  She is developing into a young lady and there is nothing I can do to stop what is happening.

Here is my advice.  Let them be little for as long as you can.  Do not force them to be older than they are.  They will grow up soon enough so let them go.  Let them get messy, be crazy, have lazy days, have pj day.  Soon enough they will have a fashion sense of their own, they will have activities they will need to attend to. They will worry if they look ok no matter what their fashion preference is. IT IS OK TO LET THEM BE LITTLE!  If your kid is not going potty at 1.5 do not let the parents who have kids at 1 using the potty get you down.  Chances are they are forcing their child before they are really ready and that could be scaring their kid.  Now if they are 5 in diapers then maybe you want to push a little more but even then maybe they are just late bloomers.  Lord knows my daughter is blooming far behind the other but I am ok with that.

The day will come that she has to be responsible and she will learn to get through it just like the rest of us have.  Soon enough I will be older and it will be her helping me make sure things are in order or I am getting around my house ok.  So for now I want her to be 14.  I want her to have 14 year old things to do.  I want her to look 14.  Soon enough she will be 18 and that is when it will time for her to look and act 18. Until then she is my little girl and I am not trying to rush a second of any of it.

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Those Days

Do you ever have days where people's questions and sarcasm really just make you want to never talk to another person again?  I will be honest, I do.  Especially when some one wants to play 21 questions after I just said I had a crazy day.  If I said they fell at the dr. and went the ER why is it suddenly where did they fall, what were they doing, did you tell some one?  I don't know they just fell and I left them on the sidewalk to fend for them self. They I am referring to is a 14 year old girl with seizure disorder so of course as soon as she fell I got her inside and had the dr that was in the office look ate her.  Then I get well aren't they supposed to keep the sidewalks ice free.  Well when there was freezing rain that can be a challenge and the fact that there was a guy out there trying to clear the walk as best as he could again during freezing rain,  really what do you expect?  It is winter and we had snow with freezing rain of course there was icy spots.

Using sarcasm all the time is frustrating too.  Like if I post a very nice picture on Facebook and say I love these guys and you respond with they are bad I am ignoring that.  I am sharing a nice moment and you are out to find a way to make it less nice.  When it is practically done on every post I do it really seems more like you are being mean after awhile.  Sorry if this sounds crazy but I am just frustrated right now by some peoples behavior.

If you are supposed to be my friend and know the struggle I have had with my ex husband even being involved to the point it is part of the custody order and I tell you that he needs to start being a parent why are you as my friend and some one who is supposed to care about y daughters well being knowing the stress and anger she has suffered continually trying to make things easier for him.  I don't need you to be a medium between us. I pay a lawyer $15 an email to do that.  If he can not grow up and be a parent that is his problem and he can suffer the consequences.  Just b my friend be there for my child and let me be a parent and handle that stuff.  I was married to him not you.

There is a chance people will read this and realize I am talking about them, be mad and even stop being my friend or something but here it is.  I have severe anxiety, I have a lot of stress and I do not sleep.  I grind my teeth while awake to the point my jaw hurts.  I have a lot of  things going on.  I just want people to act like my friends and not be weird or try to make choices for me or argue stupid points like I am an idiot even though I am telling you yes I checked that and it wasn't there, yet you continue to question me like I am lying.  I think I know if I looked for something or not.

Sorry for the rant but today has been very stressful and I just do not want to deal with this stuff any more.